Decisions, decisions

Moving: out, in and on

This February is all about moving. After spending 6 months in Copenhagen for my internship, I have packed up and stacked up at my parents’ house in Esbjerg. Initially, the plan was to move back to Aarhus, where I would write my thesis and finish my master’s degree. But then something got in the way. Or rather someone.

It all began in Aarhus

Let’s flash backwards to 9 months ago, when I was still living in Aarhus. I had spent 4 wonderful years in that city and I loved every minute of it. There is something about this city that makes everyone, who ever lived here, speak about with an affection comparable to that of teenage-love. Maybe it’s because it’s the youngest city in Denmark. With its 50.000 students there are loads of events and activities around the city, tailored to our millennial mindset (did someone say board game café?). Whatever it is, there’s definitely a feeling in Aarhus that will stick with you. For me, the feeling was comfort and safety; I could literally bike 10 minutes in any direction and end up at a friend’s house.

Aros Art Museum Aarhus
Aros Art Museum in Aarhus

The search for the perfect internship

And so, 9 months ago, I was looking for an internship as a part of my master’s program. And though I loved my comfortable life in my big, bright apartment with a balcony view, my feet were itching, and I was longing for adventure. So, I searched for possibilities abroad – preferably in a place I’d never been.

First, I was offered a position in South Africa, where I’d support a volunteer project with Y.M.C.A. The tasks included project management for engagement of youths and investigative journalism and storytelling, which are big passions of mine. I was definitely intrigued, but also a little concerned about how much I’d be able to learn. Sure, I’d be leading the team and probably gain some valuable leadership skills, but it also meant that I could only really learn from myself. Also, I’d have to pay for all work-related travel myself and that was a real downside.

The second proposal I got was from a project in Cambodia. The tasks would include establishing and maintaining relations with locals in Cambodia and collaborating with them on promotional material aimed to protect the rainforest. The project appealed to me, because of its sustainable nature and the possibility to make a real difference. I actually accepted this offer and promptly announced to my family that I’d be spending Christmas in SE Asia.

Then came a turn of events. I saw a posting for an internship in UN City in Copenhagen. Having already secured a position, I thought: why not? And so, I sent them an application letter, passionately explaining my desire to work with international partnerships and sustainable development. Two weeks later they offered me the position and I had to cancel my plans for Cambodia.

A change of plans – a change of heart

Come end July, I made my tearful goodbyes to my best friends and solemnly swore that the capital would not swallow me whole – “I will be back, I promise!” And then I packed my boxes in my dad’s car and drove to Copenhagen.

(Naturally, there’s a few missing links here. First, I had to find a place to live in CPH, which is incredibly difficult. But let’s talk about that some other time)

I immediately fell in love with working for the UN. The beautiful building, the diversity, the huge and diverse intern network. It felt like a right decision. Of course, there was a rough couple of weeks at first; coping with being alone in a new city and some terrifyingly bad Tinder-dates, but after that it was nothing but pure love.

In September, I fell in love again. This time, in the most wonderful man I’ve ever met. He was an intern as well. We met at the Friday bar and almost immediately, he ‘moved in’ with me. We biked to work together, shared our lunch and spent our coffee breaks together. After work we would bike home to my place and repeat every day for the next month. Unfortunately, his internship ended in mid-October and he went back to Munich to finish his studies. After a month of long-distance calls, I realized two things:

  1. I really – really – don’t like long-distance
  2. I really – really – like this man

So, what do I do? Do I move to Munich?

If this were a romantic comedy, a wise stranger would tell me to follow my heart.

As if your heart only ever wants one thing.

My heart could as well take me to Aarhus. Back to my wonderful apartment, my beloved city and most of all: my friends, who have truly become family to me.

Decisions: A matter of the heart?

Sometimes in life, our decisions are not black and white, but rather a spectrum of nuances that make it difficult to make the right choice. Do we follow our hearts or our heads? Or our guts? Or the, sometimes unsolicited, advice from our parents?

I argue that often there are no right decisions. There are just decisions and the consequences thereof. I could have gone to South Africa and had an amazing experience and satisfied my wanderlust. I could have gone to Cambodia and never met this guy, and I’m sure I would have been happy in some other way.

But I didn’t. And now my life presents me with new choices as a consequence of my previous ones. I must now choose between the comfortable, familiar home in Aarhus or the uncertain, new life in Southern Germany.

Boiling down hours upon hours of contemplation, pros and cons-lists and propaganda-like advice from my mother, one fact drowned out everything else: If I do not give this relationship an honest chance, I’ll regret it for the rest of my life.

2 weeks from now I am moving to Munich.

And so here I am:  In the middle of my many boxes and my broken promises of returning to Aarhus. And the thrill of anticipation flutters like butterflies in my stomach. I can’t wait for this new adventure to begin.

Until next time,

My

41 thoughts on “Decisions, decisions

  1. Hi My
    Thanks for liking one of my posts! Im glad this has led me to your blog!
    I’m a massive fan of Denmark (not to mention that you have our own as your Crown Princess). I’m also excited about visiting Aarhus for the first time in April…
    I’m intrigued by your story – did you end up going with your heart and moving to Munich??
    I look forward to sharing the WP journey with you. ☺️

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    • Wauw, thank you for your kind words. I’ve absolutely fallen in love with the desing of your blog. And the wonderful pictures – never knew Copenhagen could be so beautiful 😉
      We do love our/your Crown Princess – I actually insisted on naming all my pets after her, growing up 😀
      How exciting that you’re coming to Aarhus. I’m sure you’ll love it!!
      And to your question: Yes! I am moving to Munich in exactly 2 weeks and I am equally excited and scared 😀

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    • Really?? How has it worked out for you? Do you still live there?
      I’m currently using a lot of energy trying to fall in love with Munich before I leave. But I have a feeling that I’ll be longing for Scandinavia soon enough.

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      • Yes, we do 🙂 But luckily I could stay in the same country!
        I have only been to Munich once, but I think it might be too busy for a Dane. Even if you’ve lived in Aarhus and CPH. The food is less expensive though, actually everything is haha.

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      • Ah, yeah well that’s a big plus! Less cultural changes to adapt to then 🙂
        I’m actually okay with busy – rather that then quiet loneliness 😉
        Yeah, the cheaper living conditions are a big plus! Hope I can control my Nutella consumption now that it’s half price of what I’m used to 😂🙈

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  2. Oh my god I love it! I’m a sucker for romance and I admire you for your decision to go after him! YOU GO GIRLLLLL. I hope you enjoy your new adventure and you’re a total badass for having the courage to do it. Cannot wait for the next one. Please keep writing x

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    • Your comment honestly made me smile from ear to ear. LOVING your energy! I visited your page and pressed ‘follow’, so I hope to read more of your positive energy 😀
      And I will keep you updated on my romantic adventures, promise!

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